Should girls have sex with their bfs?

What do you think about it?

At this age (20 something), is it OK to have sexual relationship already with our lovers?

Does giving our bodies up to our guys help to keep him by your side, or instead it makes him get bored faster and leaves sooner?

One friend of mine, A, thinks that nothing is forbidden when your feelings are turned on. Everyone, man or woman, in this world has desire; it's a very normal thing to come to sex when you're in relationship - isn't it too kesian that even your guy don't feel desire for YOU?

A is open-minded with this - she thinks it's perfectly OK to have sex if both parties feel the desire, the drive, the rush of adrenaline to feel each other's body. It's not about the guy is your future husband or what - you love him at that time, and that's all is required.

And then there's a girl friend B, who is skeptical about sex, hates, scared of, disgusted with anything about sex, the total Ms. Pure - but that was before she has the boyfriend now. It shocked the gang of friends we're in, when she told us that she has lost her virginity to her boyfriend.

And thenB is still a bit awkward with sex, but she's feeling more and more "selamba" with the issue having sexual relationship with her lover. Though she also decided prior already that this boyfriend would certainly be her future husband - so that's the reason she can accept pre-marrital sex. And I've seen her with her bf - they communicate like husband and wife alraedy. With no doubt her bf is certain about marrying B also.

Ok, so there's enough said from girl part. We shall listen to what guys would have to say instead.

A guy friend, C, has been in a relationship with his girlfriend for the longest time. Years he'd been in relationship with the same girl. And his girl is hot no doubt! (I saw her:P) But it shocked us too, when he honestly told the gang of friends we're in that he had never got to sex with his gf. So, WHY?! For desire, is a normal thing for mammal like us what.

So he said : "Yeah we'd a lot of times nearly got to that, but I stopped myself."

Again, another WHY?!

"Because I really love her, and I really sayang her."

And it suddenly struck me at the time he said that. When a guy is really seriously in love with a girl, he would consider MORE than ever. If a guy truly loves, he would also be truly responsibled. If a guy truly loves, he would also truly considers everything.

When he doesn't think for your future together, he's not seriously in love.

There's another guy friend, D, who just mentioned the same thing to me. D had been in relationship for a long time too, and he's serious with it that he hopes he can marry with this girl in the future. And also, in shock, he said he never got to sex with his gf either. Everything can wait, when a guy truly loves a girl and wants to be with her forever and ever.

D said : "I think that if a girl have sex with her bf, it'll only make the bf leaves her sooner.

"Guys are fast to get bored."

OH, so that's the case?! And D said it was his opinion after knowing some stories of others himself. When a guy has got all from a girl (include the sex), then he'll lose his interest in the girl very soon. Mysteries, unexplored, is what keeps us hooked, isn't it?

So that's opinions from 2 girl friends, and 2 guy friends.

Strangely, through what I've gathered in conversations with friends, guys and girls, I find that girls are actually more open with sex in relationships, than are guys. o.O

Girls mostly, and basically consider with heart -the feelings; Sex can go, if the feeling is right. But guys, when they're serious about the relationship (Yeah, SERIOUS, cannot be emphasized enough), they consider the sex issue with brain - the rationality; Sex can only go when he thinks he has the sufficient ability to make his girl happy and loved, not only 5 minutes now, but also 50 years in the future.

And then we come back to the question again........Should girls have sex with their bfs?

Does having sex with bfs keeps them longer or chases them away faster?

For me, I guess it's a matter of different people. But girls, we all have to learn to protect our bodies! Please spot the bad guys before they enter you. (Again i cant emphasize enough the importance.)

However, when a guy really loves you, my girl, you're sooooo lucky. Blessings to everyone i know! :)


Follow-up : Pregnant, at 21.