Pregnant, at 21.

Being a mother is sweet, holy, and a sign of becoming matured.

What about being a mother at early 20s?

Would it remain sweet, holy and a sign of becoming matured; Or would it becomes scary, ugly and a sign of coming disaster?

Nowadays the cases of underage pregnancy still shock us, but we could shake our heads at it and comment that these teenagers should wait longer; however when it comes to cases of pregnancy at early 20s, we have very contradicting comments among ourselves.

Certainly early 20s isn't underage anymore, and certainly couples could have sex at this point of age - provided that if you have no issue against premarital sex, like me.

But what if the young girl get pregnant?

Following the previous post on "Should girls have sex with their bfs", my friends and I had another discussion yesterday. This time around, we're looking the issue from a new angle - the becoming-a-mother-possibility-and-whether-it's-good-or-bad angle.

Friend S talked about her close friend during high school, had just pregnant and got married. The couples are both young, at their 21s. Both are highly educated, and their families know about their relationship all along, too.

So friend S was kind of disagreed with pregnancy and marriage because of pregnancy at such a young age 21.

"The girl could have have more fun in years to come, but she got herself pregnant at 21, " said S, with a hint of sighing.

The question now is : Should young couples get married because of pregnancy at early 20s?

According to S, certainly she doesn't agree to that. A girl is at her best times at 20s, having a baby, family, and all, ruin all the fun.

Imagine that when other girls of your age are shopping, hanging out and flirting, you are changing diapers, cooking porridge, and washing your husband's underwear - it's really such a waste to become a wife and mother at early 20s.


Friend W had another point though. Getting pregnant and married young, would minimize the age gap between generations - thus the communication gap between generations could be made smaller.

Nowadays young people don't talk to their grandparents, and even parents - they're too old-fashioned to know about what we're talking about. Thus by having baby and marrying young, your son or daughter would reach 20s as you just reach 40s. A 20-year gap makes much difference in the ways of communication.

But of course, thinking rationally, I would say that I agree with S that people should not marry because of pregnancy at early 20s.

Even though the communication gap could be solved, the effect can only be seen in 20 years later - in the 20 years waiting for that gap to be seen solved, a young mother is spending her days with diapers, kitchen, and laundry for 20 years.

Getting married because of pregnancy at early 20s seems to be more of a waste for the young couples, than benefits and convenience (some people say that it saves your trouble of finding and finding for the Mr. Right).

So as I see it : You can have sex with your lovers at early 20s, but please spot the bad guys before they enter you, and when you're letting a guy in - please use condom. And preferably take birth-control pills also.



You don't want to be happy for three months for becoming a mother and wife, and unhappy for 20 years to come.

Psychologists said that an unhappy mother would cultivate an unhappy child. Note that! Only get pregnant when you already had it all PLANNED out.

Good luck to every young couples out there!


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